Things nobody tells you about being in your 30s!!

During our growing up days, especially when we are in school, all we think of is, when are we going to be adults? Well, that's because we see the adults around us enjoying freedom (that is something we basically are kids), living their life, making decisions on their own and that was fascinating for us. Little did we know that childhood or till the time we do not get into the stepping out of the home phase, is apparently the best time of our lives.

At the age of 17, I graduated from my school and joined a University in a different state, away from my parents, all on my own. It was primarily my parents' decision to send off my brother and I once we are done with grade 12 because they wanted us to be independent and get the exposure and confidence that we could not get if we lived under the protective shield of the family and I agree to this completely. I think, this was one of the best decisions my parents took for me. It made me better in so many ways and I can not be thankful enough to them for this. They supported me through everything but never ever overstepped my decisions. All they said was, you decide for yourself and if you face any repercussions, we will be there to help you out. Well, all of this worked in my favor and here I am.

Now in my 30s, I realize that there are a lot of things that no one tells us about being in our 30s.

This is why, I have listed out some of the things that I wish I knew!

1. Suddenly you're an adult, like literally! No one tells you to do certain things, you just know that you have to do it. You become a responsible one. You are suddenly juggling work, family, chores, kids, relationships, outings, me times, and the list goes on.

2. Some of the most weird things start happening to your body. A peculiar spot at the back of your shoulder will start aching out of no where. Back pain and leg pain is a constant. Your need for regular spa days increases to a new degree. Vitamin supplements are the newest additions to the cabinets. But somehow, you try and make yourself better and better each day and that's how it should actually be.

3. Parents, the most important part of our lives, our pillars, our lifelines, suddenly start ageing very quickly. It shatters you from inside every time you see a new wrinkle on their face or the skin loosing its hold from the hand. You come to realize that you can't do much about it because life and age will take its course but you somehow want to stop this time, you just want to have that ever young parents always in your life because no matter how old you are, with parents you become just their little kid that you are used to being. :'(

4. Friends drift apart. In your 30s, all of your friends are at different stages of their life. Some are married with kids, some are married, some are bachelors and most of the friends stay in different cities and countries. All of these lead to different priorities, different time zones and gaps in all means. This does not mean that you don't still love them or miss them, you still love them immensely and miss being with them or meeting them and they do too but when life happens, often friendships take a back seat and that's sad. I miss my friends way way too much but everyone is spread across the globe and life is happening to each one them like its with me. Sad but true!

5. Career shifts and changes are a thought that come to your mind all the time! You constantly want to learn new things and get involved in new careers because you feel that this age and time is the one where you can work the most and have a good life later and I agree. But trust me, life will take its course like it has to. The control is not in our hands and its never too late to start something new or evolve something old. Its all about the determinations, goals and intentions.

   Well, I think this one's got too long. But this is what I feel in a nutshell. There is a lot that I'd like to share about my learnings, may be some blogs later. Till then keep looking up at the blogs and send me your love and feedback! Love,

   Shriya!